Granted, some kids seem to be more confident in directing others at an early age, but that's not what I mean. There could be a number of reasons why this is the case, be it birth order, the social structure of the family, or the specific environments and circumstances they've been a part of in peer situations.
That's more my point - it takes many experiences to make a leader a good one... one that is buffed up and capable. And I truly believe some of those experiences have to be so hurtful and sharp that they bring you to the ground and cause you to wonder what you really believe. As you feel alone and dejected, tired of all the cliche's you've been given by people who are so speechless to your situation they have nothing else to offer, you are finally humble enough to consider that the way you've been living life isn't enough.
That something "must" be done.
That you will come through this, even if you look a bit different.
It's like the whole process of buffing a ring. You take a piece of metal and put it under something that is spinning fast, creating a soft-yet-sharp brush against the metal... all so that which you hold precious can lose pieces of itself in order to smooth out and shine the way it was intended.
That's not a pretty process... it's best to wear goggles.
So I wonder if we shouldn't consider the trials you are under right now and what they may be offering you. Nobody likes to go through the tough stuff, but I've found that this buffing process helps us to smooth out in ways we never would have before. Without it, we may never realize what we need to shed in order to shine.
"Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything." (James 1:2-4)