You're living in a Larger Story than that "thing" that's dangling out there, trying to bait you into another person's insecurities or something you weren't made for.
Don't attend every argument you're invited into or left breadcrumbs to follow. Instead, be still... know that God is God... and join Him in proactively forming Life however you can, reconciling whatever you can at all times. Question your feelings, for they are often misleading and beyond understanding. Instead, do what's right... even if it isn't popular or easy.
(felt like someone needed to hear this today)