Showing posts with label social media. Show all posts
Showing posts with label social media. Show all posts

doctoring up social media

True story:

I was at the doctor's check-in desk last week, sharing private info in a moderately quiet voice. I ended with, "Hey, one more question - where's the bathroom?"

A lady sitting behind me in the waiting room started loudly answering my question.

Social Media is kind of like that some days.

You have to choose to either lean into certain conversations you intended to have or embrace the audience around you and increase your engagement.

True story.
"To answer before listening - that is folly and shame." (Proverbs 18:13)

p.s. if you take photos of yourself...

Just a reminder that if you need a picture of yourself to post online, get a friend... preferably one who doesn't still make you do the cheesy pose in front of a mirror.



If you can't make that happen and insist on standing in front of a mirror for a picture (which, by the way, makes no sense whatsoever), just another reminder that you don't need to get all showy with your camera.


(Because it likely comes across like this)





Likewise, you may want to make sure that whatever attitude your face is communicating matches the rest of your... "attitude."



Ladies (especially), please know that while you think it's sexy to show off your cleavage... it belittles you and makes the rest of your character appear non-existent.


So... what's the cumulative take away?

Well, maybe there are enough pictures of people taking pictures of themselves already out there... and we should really leave it up to the professionals.

Honestly.

now... here's the fun part

If you don't know who Eduardo Saverin is, you likely know of something he helped start with a friend named Mark Zuckerberg. In college they were the original founders (if you don't believe the Winklevoss twins) of Facebook.

I'm not sure why I started following Eduardo's feed on Facebook, but I think it had something to do with wanting an insider's perspective on social media. After reading something he posted this week, as well as the commentary that followed, I'm reminded of how we think our opinion matters more than it does.

Case in point, let's start with Eduardo's comments on Facebook letting its stocks go public:

On the eve of the Facebook public float, 8 plus year in the making, I as co-founder wanted to look back and cherish Facebook's early beginning. Congrats to everyone involved in the project from day one till today, and I especially wanted to congratulate Mark Zuckerberg on keeping tremendous stead-fast focus, however hard that was, on making the world a more open and connected place.
Although he's come under fire for some controversy of his own, I appreciate Eduardo's sentiment. Here is the graphic he attached that shows Facebook's early days:



Now... here's the fun part.

Among the many comments that followed, I somehow gravitated to one in particular.


It reads "Get rid of the timeline!!! I'm seriously considering going back to MYSPACE. Maybe...."

Keep in mind, this is right on the eve of Facebook about to make more money than they know what to do with... which is a problem they already have. Yet here is a person on Facebook threatening to go back to another social network that she left for what appears to be a negative experience.

She's threatening Facebook... on Facebook.

Do you think Facebook is afraid? Are they going to take this comment seriously?

More importantly, does she believe Facebook is going to take this comment seriously?

You'll note that I blurred out her name, because this isn't about her and I'm not trying to poke fun. Rather, it's a revelation that most of us don't realize.

Social media has become about us getting our way... or at least trying to.

Maybe we're just like how Facebook was first founded - only instead of five people who embodied those traits, each person embodies them all. Do you see any of this in your or others online:
  • Founder: We believe "I am doing things in my life aren't as important as what's happening in your life. I have the right to say what I want to say without question. I know you share something, but honestly I'm more interested in what I shared... what I'm doing... my latest breakthrough or complaint. You have part of my attention - you have the minimum amount."

  • Destroyer: We believe that if we have a bad experience with a person or a local store, the best way to feel vindicated is to destroy them online. If you have an issue with your family or are trying to win over mutual friends in a dispute you have with another person, make sure everyone hears your point of view.

  • Brazilian: We believe we're culturally unique and people actually want to see the places we've been, the food we've just eaten, and the place we've flushed it all.

  • Lockbox: We believe that if we can get enough people to like/retweet/pin what we say, that we've locked down credibility on what we've said - especially if we can get random friends and strangers to debate with us against any other random friends and strangers who think differently.

  • Pressguy: We believe that if we post enough content about how "those guys are morons" (politics, anyone?) or how amazing our latest breakthrough is we can get more people to see life our way and buy our latest product/service/philosophy.
Here's the punchline... none of this has anything to do with Facebook. All social media does is amplify what's in our hearts. That is ultimately an issue of unaddressed sin - something that every person on the planet is tempted to overlook.

Take a look at the list I created - see if you recognize any patterns in your communication or others. If you find yourself shaking your head, take a second look... which ones are you even unconsciously tempted or bent toward?

Meanwhile, take note that I've ironically used social media to talk about social media. If you've made it thus far, then perhaps you're willing to join me in finding a redemptive purpose for our time online versus ranting and raving about however we're feeling.

Otherwise, how about you just like this, retweet it, and pin it - because "I need more followers."

(Um... not.)
Who can say, “I have kept my heart pure; I am clean and without sin”? (Proverbs 20:9)

a potentially honest look at facebook

An interesting thing about Facebook - we think sharing an update equals being transparent.

Ironically, it couldn't be further from the  truth... just watch what happens when someone pushes back on what you've said or what another person wrote - look at how quickly we call constructive thinking as someone being judgmental, say "You don't understand me! So leave me alone!" or accuse them of being "a hater."

I like Facebook for its potential good, but I do think this graphic says something worth noting:


What do you think? Does being a part of an online social network mean you present a side of yourself to the world but hide the rest? After all, isn't that what most of us do in person?
"There is nothing deceitful in God, nothing two-faced, nothing fickle. He brought us to life using the true Word, showing us off as the crown of all his creatures."  (James 1:16, The Message)

sadly, I am on Twitter. however...

Although I have resisted it for the longest time - and perhaps still do - I have a Twitter account. I use it functionally, such as a "thought for the day" for our church or to post comments on websites that require a Twitter account. I am simply not a fan of counting your "followers" or getting people to "retweet" your "tweet."

All grumbling aside, I was intrigued by this notification in my Hotmail inbox today - look at the highlighted portion of this graphic:


Take THAT, J.R.R. Tolkien!
"If anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing, he deceives himself." (Galatians 6:3)